How to Experience Squirting: Physiology, Research, and Technique Without the Myths

Squirting is one of the most talked-about — and most heavily mythologized — topics in female sexuality. Some people see it as the "ultimate" orgasm, others write it off as a staged porn trick, and many spend years feeling ashamed of their own body because "something is leaking down there." Let's sort it out: what science actually says, how squirting differs from female ejaculation, and which techniques genuinely help you experience it.

What squirting is from a physiological standpoint

Sexology distinguishes two different phenomena that everyday language tends to lump together under the single word "squirting":

Female ejaculation — the release of a small amount of thickish, whitish fluid that is chemically similar to male prostatic fluid. It is produced by the Skene's glands (paraurethral glands), which are also called the "female prostate."[5]
Squirting — the expulsion of a noticeably larger volume of clear fluid from the urethra. According to current reviews, this fluid comes primarily from the bladder, but it differs chemically from ordinary urine and often contains some secretion from the Skene's glands.[3][5]

WebMD also identifies a third, separate condition — coital incontinence — in which actual urine is involuntarily released during sex. This is not the same as squirting and is significantly less common.[4]

Various estimates suggest that between 10% and 54% of people with vaginas report experiencing squirting or ejaculation at some point in their lives. The range is huge because researchers use very different survey methods and definitions.[4]

Skene's glands and the "female prostate"

The Skene's glands sit around the urethra, right next to the anterior wall of the vagina — the area commonly known as the G-spot. When the anterior wall becomes engorged and stimulated, the glands fill up and can release fluid through tiny ducts near the opening of the urethra.[2][5]

This is precisely why squirting is almost always linked to G-spot stimulation rather than external clitoral stimulation: anatomically, these are neighboring but distinct structures.

Who Beverly Whipple is and why her name matters

The modern conversation about female ejaculation largely began with the work of American sexologist and nurse Beverly Whipple, professor emerita at Rutgers University.[1] In 1981, together with John Perry, she published the now-classic paper Female Ejaculation: A Case Study, and in 1982 their book The G Spot and Other Discoveries About Human Sexuality came out.[1]

It was Whipple and Perry who proposed calling the sensitive area on the anterior vaginal wall the G-spot, after the German gynecologist Ernst Gräfenberg, who had described it back in the 1950s.[7]

In a later review in Current Sexual Health Reports, Whipple summed up decades of research and emphasized a key point: science's job is not to prove or disprove the existence of "magic spots", but to validate women's sexual experiences, which were long dismissed as fiction or pathology.[6]

"The goal is to affirm the diversity of women's sexual experiences, not to fit them into a single universal template" — this captures the essence of Whipple's position in her review.[6]

Keep this in mind: if you've never squirted, you're fine. If you have, you're also fine. It's a variant of normal, not a required program.

Is it urine or not: what the research says

One of the most common fears: "What if it's just pee, and I'll wet myself in front of my partner?" Let's address it honestly.

The fluid involved in squirting does largely come from the bladder — ultrasound studies confirm this, showing the bladder filling during arousal and emptying at the moment of squirting.[3][5]
However, its chemical composition is different from ordinary urine: it has lower concentrations of urea and creatinine, and often contains PSA (prostate-specific antigen) — the same marker produced by the Skene's glands.[5]
Healthline and Medical News Today agree that squirting fluid is a mixed fluid: partly from the bladder, partly from the paraurethral glands.[2][3]

The practical takeaway: there's nothing to be afraid of. It's a natural physiological process, not a "shameful puddle." If it helps, lay down a towel and simply focus on pleasure.

Why it doesn't "work" for everyone — and that's fine

Squirting isn't a measure of orgasm "quality" or sexual sophistication. Your ability to experience it is shaped by:

The anatomy of your Skene's glands. Their size and activity vary from person to person, and in some they are physiologically less prominent.[5]
Pelvic floor muscle tone. Excessive clenching blocks the release of fluid; too little tone reduces sensitivity.[2]
Psychological tension. Fear of "wetting yourself," shame, and control are the main stop-factors.[2][3]
Quality of stimulation. The G-spot needs time to become engorged and sensitive — this usually only happens against the backdrop of strong overall arousal.[3]

If you want to dive into the topic systematically, Mysteries Love offers a course called "Dr. Squirt", where the physiology is unpacked in detail, and a more practical course, "Squirting Techniques", with step-by-step exercises.

How to experience squirting: a step-by-step technique

Let's be clear up front: you can't force squirting through willpower. The harder you try, the more likely you are to tense up. So the approach is not "achieve a result," but "create the conditions under which your body can let go."

Step 1. Prepare your body and your space

Go to the bathroom beforehand — this removes the mental block of "what if it's pee."[2]
Lay down a towel or a waterproof sheet. Knowing that "everything is under control" helps you relax.
Make sure you're warm, safe, and won't be interrupted. Squirting is about deep trust in your body.

Step 2. Long foreplay and overall arousal

Medical News Today emphasizes: the G-spot only becomes sensitive when arousal is high.[3] Without it, stimulating the anterior wall feels like pressure or an urge to pee — not pleasure.

So start with what usually turns you on: kissing, breast play, clitoral stimulation. Don't rush — 15–20 minutes of "warm-up" is normal, not "too long."

Step 3. G-spot stimulation

Once arousal is high:

Insert one or two fingers (your own or your partner's) into the vagina, palm up.
Curl your fingers in a "come here" motion toward the pubic bone — about 3–5 cm (1–2 inches) from the entrance, you'll feel a patch with a more textured, "ribbed" surface. This is the projection of the G-spot and the Skene's glands.[2][3]
The motion isn't in-and-out, it's "come here": a rhythmic pressing and stroking with the fingertips. Healthline specifically recommends this beckoning gesture.[2]
At the same time, the clitoris can be stimulated — by hand, by your partner's tongue, or with a vibrator. Dual stimulation boosts your chances.[3]

Step 4. Recognize "that" sensation

At some point you'll feel something very similar to the urge to urinate. This is the key moment where most people tense up and stop.[2][3]

In reality, this is a signal that the Skene's glands and/or bladder are full and the urethra is ready to release. The task is not to clench, but to gently bear down and outward, as if exhaling through the pelvis. Don't confuse this with hard straining — it's about letting go, not pushing.

Step 5. Release control

Breathe deeply and into your belly; don't hold your breath.
Make sound — your voice helps unlock the pelvis.
Don't chase the outcome: if squirting doesn't happen this time, you'll still have an intense experience.

If you have sex with a partner and they want to learn how to bring you to a squirting orgasm gently and without pressure, check out the course "She Finishes First": it covers how to build a woman's orgasm step by step.

Toys and positions that help

Curved G-spot toys (glass, metal, or silicone with a pronounced curve) deliver firmer pressure than fingers and don't get tired.[2]
Lying on your back with hips elevated — slide a pillow under your sacrum. A convenient angle for stimulating the anterior wall.
Cowgirl with a backward lean — your partner's penis or a dildo naturally presses into the G-spot.
Doggy-style with an arched lower back — similar effect, but the receiving partner controls the depth.

What NOT to do

Don't try to "squeeze out" a squirt with brute force and rapid thrusting — that's traumatic for the urethra.
Don't compare yourself to porn: what you see on screen is often staged, edited, or actually coital incontinence.[4]
Don't turn squirting into "the goal of the date." Turning it into a KPI kills arousal faster than anything else.
Don't ignore pain or burning. If G-spot stimulation feels uncomfortable — stop, add lube, slow down, or see a doctor if symptoms persist.

If nothing's happening

That's fine, and it doesn't make you "frigid." Possible reasons:

Not enough arousal — return to the foreplay stage.
A psychological block — try learning to squirt on your own first, without an audience.
Strong pelvic floor tension — mindful relaxation, breathwork, and seeing a somatic therapist can help.
Individual anatomy — and that's also okay. The quality of sex isn't measured in milliliters.[6]

Beverly Whipple wrote plainly: the research mission is to validate the diversity of women's experience, not to create a new standard of the "correct" orgasm.[6] So treat squirting as one of many possible experiences — interesting, but not mandatory.

Quick recap

Squirting and female ejaculation are two distinct but related phenomena; behind them are the Skene's glands and the bladder.[2][5]
Squirting fluid isn't "just urine": its composition differs and often contains PSA.[5]
Squirting is reported by 10% to 54% of people with vaginas — the range depends on methodology.[4]
The key to technique is sustained arousal, "come here" G-spot stimulation, parallel clitoral work, and the ability to release control at the moment you feel the urge to pee.[2][3]
Squirting is a variant of normal, not a required program. The real measure of good sex is your pleasure, not the size of the wet spot on the sheets.

FAQ

Is squirting urine or not?

It's a mixed fluid. A large portion of it does come from the bladder, but chemically it differs from ordinary urine: it contains less urea and creatinine and often includes PSA — a marker produced by the paraurethral Skene's glands. So calling squirting "just pee" isn't accurate.

Can every woman experience squirting?

No, and that's normal. According to various studies, roughly 10% to 54% of people with vaginas report experiencing squirting or female ejaculation at some point in their lives. The ability depends on individual anatomy of the Skene's glands, pelvic floor tone, and psychological openness. The absence of squirting does not make an orgasm "worse."

Where is the G-spot and how do you find it?

The G-spot is an area on the anterior wall of the vagina, about 3–5 cm (1–2 inches) from the entrance, overlying the Skene's glands and urethra. To find it, insert one or two fingers palm-up and curl them in a "come here" motion toward the pubic bone. When arousal is high, you'll feel a more textured, "ribbed" surface there.

Why does G-spot stimulation make me feel like I need to pee?

That's a key and completely normal signal. It means the bladder and Skene's glands have filled and the urethra is ready to release fluid. Most people tense up at this moment from fear of "wetting themselves" — and block the squirt. Going to the bathroom in advance and laying down a towel makes it psychologically easier to let go.

Is it better to learn to squirt with a partner or alone first?

It's often easier to figure it out solo: there's no fear of being judged, and you can experiment with pace and pressure. Once your body "remembers" the experience, it's easier to reproduce it with a partner. If you want a systematic approach, you can take a specialized course — for example, "Squirting Techniques" or the deeper "Dr. Squirt" course on Mysteries Love.

Sources

Beverly Whipple - Wikipedia — Wikipedia
What to Know About Squirting Orgasm — Healthline
Squirting: Definition, how it feels, and tips — Medical News Today
What Is Squirting? — WebMD
Female ejaculation - Wikipedia — Wikipedia
Female Ejaculation, G Spot, A Spot, and Should We Be Looking for Spots? | Current Sexual Health Reports | Springer Nature Link — Current Sexual Health Reports (Springer)
Beverly Whipple and the ‘Invention’ of the G Spot | History Hit — History Hit