Mysteries Journal
Blog
Essays and field-tested practices on relationships, intimacy and self-knowledge.
Penis Size: What Statistics Actually Say, What's a Myth, and How Much It Really Matters to Women
A clear look at what research actually shows about penis size, where the myths come from, and why this metric is almost never at the top of women's priority list.
Anorgasmia in Women: Why Orgasm Isn't Happening and What to Do About It
We unpack how primary anorgasmia differs from secondary, which psychological and bodily factors sustain it, and why directed masturbation à la Lonnie Barbach became the gold standard of treatment.
How to Last Longer in Bed: Start-Stop and Squeeze Techniques and Pelvic Floor Training
Evidence-based methods for controlling arousal: the Masters and Johnson techniques, pelvic floor training, breathwork and attention practices.
How to Keep Passion Alive in a Long-Term Relationship: What Esther Perel and the Science of Desire Say About Love After Years Together
Why long-term relationships lose their erotic spark and how to bring it back: exploring Esther Perel's ideas, the Gottmans' research, and the role of novelty in sustaining desire.
Sex Positions for Female Orgasm: What Clitoral Anatomy and Science Say
What research reveals about clitoral physiology, the G-spot, and the positions that most powerfully amplify female orgasm — without the myths and glossy-magazine lists.
Multiple Orgasms in Women: Physiology, the Refractory Period, and Science-Backed Techniques
What science actually says about multiple orgasms in women: the refractory period, data from the Kinsey Institute and OMGYes, the angling, rocking, shallowing and pairing techniques, and Emily Nagoski's approach.
What Is Squirting: A Scientific Overview of Female Ejaculation Physiology
What science knows about squirting: from Beverly Whipple's 1981 research to Salama's 2014 work — the fluid's composition, the role of Skene's glands, and why it doesn't happen to everyone.
A Map of Erogenous Zones: What Modern Sexology Says About Body Sensitivity
New research is rewriting anatomy textbooks: more than 10,000 nerve fibers have been counted in the clitoris, and scientists have produced detailed maps of the body's erogenous and "aversive" zones. Here's how this changes our approach to intimacy.